Heavensfield

Working with victims of abuse and trauma is difficult life changing work. This video captures the tremendous anguish and pain involved in taking the leap of faith to move forward in life.

Trauma recovery work is not easy, but I know it is worth it.

While I believe that it is important to dig things up and turn the soil so to speak, it is not always imperative to dig up the whole garden for true healing to occur. I believe there is a certain point where enough is known about the past that one can start moving forward and start the process of healing. Ironically, this point is different for everyone and it depends on many biopsychosocial factors, the types of traumas experienced, personal attitudes and beliefs, and the support received by caring others --  including one's therapist.

Recovery from trauma is not only possible, it is worth the excavation work necessary to life a fulfilling life. I've come to see dissociation as a gift. It allows a person to cope, adapt and make it through a horrific event in one's life. Later on (when it is safe to do so) the band aid of dissociation can be removed, the wound can be examined and a new dressing can be applied. The brain can then make sense of the traumas, and the associated fear, anger and rage that was once suppressed in order to survive.

If you suffer from dissociation, ask me about ways you can find true joy and hope amidst the struggles.