I first recognized how highly intelligent and socially advanced the 20-30 year olds were upon my entrance to graduate school. Armed with my years of “life experience,” I assumed I’d navigate the trail as I’d done so many times before-with wisdom and grace. However, I soon realized that the youth of today aren’t following the trails of yesteryear–they’re texting, blogosphering, and capturing life as it happens.

What has been most fascinating is their ability to LIVE IN THE NOW. If you’re over forty, you’ll likely appreciate these observations. If you’re thirty or less, you’ll probably recognize your parents in all this. Here are some of the shattered beliefs that have been reframed since joining facebook:

Belief: If someone is taking a picture of you, it’s important to look your best, fixate on the camera lens, and put your best face forward (and no peace signs behind the head).  After all, you never know who might be looking at you!

Reframe #1: It’s much more fun to see goofy faces, crazy expressions, silly outfits, giggles, and pictures full of life and laughter, rather than staring at photo that looks like a hundred other photos you’ve seen of aunt Martha.

Belief: It’s important to be prim and proper. It’s not ok to talk potty talk, or discuss the unmentionables.

Reframing #2: Life happens in-between the lines. Seeing a video post on facebook which chronicles the first time an 18 year old cleans a toilet not only brightened my day, but reminded me of the first toilet I’d ever cleaned. Thanks Lissa!

Belief:It’s not ok to hook up with your parents, give them a kiss as you’re getting out of the car, or point them out to your friends at school. OoowW, yuck!

Reframing #3:Sure, we’ve run some of the facebook generation off by our joining en mass, but instead of running, many are willingly connecting wth friends and family (even though we’re often referred to as parent stalkers). There may be some of you that acutally remember wiping the kiss you received by your parents on your shirt sleeve. I have to hand it to them, I’m impressed with their desire to socially network across the generations.

Belief: If you break up with a partner, it’s best not to blab that to everyone except maybe one or two of your very closest friends. Better yet, maybe you should just go off to your room and cry the night away in complete despair.

Reframing #4: Change is a part of life, and youth of today embrace change with a sense of resilience and fortitude. In a relationship? There’s a field for that on facebook. Just broke up? Declare it to the world, “Hey, I’m now single.”  Or, better yet, tell the world your boyfriend is coming home from a two year mission in 15 days!

Belief: It’s important to let others see your “best side.” Why, if people knew you had any flaws, they might not like you. If they ever found out what social groups you were a part of, the causes you support, the television shows you watched or the politicians you admire. Hmmm. Well, you might as well go bury yourself in the sand.

Reframe #5: Humanity rules! Whether your a member of “Everything I learned about the law I learned from law and order” … or  “Click here to join the world’s biggest pillow fight.” There’s a place for you in this amazing diverse world.

Now, if I could only figure out how they come up with all those funny status comments, I’d be set. Bahahah. Ok, so I’ll keep my day job.

Would you tune into happy if it was readily available?

Are Americans so preoccupied with unhappiness that the majority of us would rather watch a news program about suffering, than one about happyosity? Apparently so according to a sound-byte heard on a local news program. When the guest speaker was asked if happy sells, her reply was, “No. Basically, we all know, if it bleeds, it leads.”

I’m going to go out on a limb here, and turn this statement around with the phrase, ”if it seeds, it breeds.” Just as a raging river breaks down the banks, and changes its course, so to can we change. Although our society may seem to be habituated to negativity, it can be seeded with happier ways.

I recall a story originally published by Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards about a woman who created an astonishing daffodil garden. Edwards writes

On the far side of the Church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, “Daffodil Garden.”

We got out of the car, each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and it’s surrounding slopes.

The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, and saffron and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.

“Who did this?” I asked Carolyn.

“Just one woman,” Carolyn answered. “She lives on the property. That’s her home.”

Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory.

We walked up to the house. On the patio, we saw a poster. “Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking” was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. “50,000 bulbs,” it read. The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brain.” The third answer was, “Began in 1958.”

If we are to change the tendency towards the negative, tragic side of life, it will be accomplished by planting happier thoughts,  thinking enjoyfully (a made-up word by a co-worker), and breeding a new era of peace and prosperity.

Let’s happyize 2009.

Our brains are wired to take cues on how to feel from our thoughts. Positive, upbeat people have learned this key principle . . . keep negative thinking on the down low.

To do this, it take s a bit of practice. Here’s a simple exercise to help lift you “UP” during down times.

• First, make a list of all the negative thoughts which have been bothering you.
• Second, counter these thoughts with a positive affirmations.

Here’s an example:

• Negative thought – I’m never going to have enough money to pay my bills.
• Positive affirmation- I have all Ineed.
• Negative thought – I feel so stressed, I can’t do it all.
• Positive affirmation – I feel calm, and everything is as it should be.

By taking control of our negative thinking, we can feel, look and become happier.

Best of all, it doesn’t cost a thing!

QUICK ME-UP ACTIVITIES (This is a list of activities that can be done in less than an hour). Examples:

• Read a favorite book
• Watch a favorite program
• Phone a friend
• Go for a walk
• Play guitar hero

PICK ME-UP ACTIVITIES: (This includes activities that will take up the better part of a day or more.) Examples:

• Get a massage or spa treatment
• Rendevous with a friend
• Linger the day away (yes it’s ok to take care of yourself by doing nothing)
• Take a day trip
• Engage in a favorite hobby

BUILD ME-UP ACTIVITIES (This includes activities that will push your growing edge.) Examples:

• Sign up for a college class, workshop or seminar
• Donate some time supporting your favorite cause(s)
• Do something special for someone in need

WAKE ME-UP ACTIVITIES (These are novel, different, intriguing activities that challenge you.) Examples:

• Take up Fencing
• Enjoy a Nia Dance class
• Take a zip-line adventure tour
• Apply for a new job
• Teach a continuing education class
• Visit a new part of town

Post your board, chart, or list in a place that will serve as a reminder to rejuvenate yourself. Feel free to add new activities you learn about on a daily basis. Those items in life that we put before us often become acted upon. Although activities that promote productivity are highly regarded in American society, so too should time for rejuvinating oneself.

Starting with this post I will be putting up random ideas on how to simplify your life.

Tip of the post: DE-CLUTTER!

Get rid of anything you haven’t used in the past 12 months. Start with one room, drawer or closet and branch out from there. Once you have gathered up unused items, donate or sell them. The main point is to rid yourself of excess clutter. A de-cluttered environment invites a sense of peace and calm to take up residence where clutter once dominated. With less “stuff” filling up your personal space, there is: less to clean, less to take care of, less to sort through, and less to manage. Leaving you with more space, more energy and more time to engage in the things that create lasting enjoyment.